3 Things That Affect Your Self-Worth

Self-worth is the key to whatever you want in life coming to you. You can pray, write goals, create vision boards, read books, work on yourself. But the bottom line is if you don't BELIEVE you deserve all the best life has to offer then that's what you'll get...whatever you DO believe you deserve.

Here are 3 things that can really impact what you believe you deserve - or your self-worth. Keep an eye out for these 3 things because they can really sneak up on you!

Your past memories and how you were treated

If you give ANY validity to your past experiences in what you are worth, your life will be an uphill battle. As long as you are fighting your past you can't be fully in love with your present. That includes how you see yourself. When you were young...

Did someone in your life tell you that you were worthless?

Did someone do something to make you feel unsafe or unprotected?

Did someone hurt you physically or emotionally with bullying?

As we are growing up we have to navigate many challenges ... no matter how great our parents were. We all have those moments - defining moments - in time that can change us forever. We decide something in that moment and we live with that decision for the rest of our lives.

Your past moments may be running your present. I recommend tuning into your past with the support of someone that can help you process what you see. A coach, therapist, Shaman...whatever your preference. It can feel scary, but I promise you that you are safe, perfect and powerful with nothing needing fixing or changing. And your past doesn't determine your worth.

The way you talk to yourself

Would you be friends with someone that talked to you the way you talk to yourself?

Better yet, would you have any friends if you talked to others the way you talk to yourself?

Check in today and listen to your thoughts - are they filled with love, acceptance and kindness? Or judgement, criticism and blame?

Transform this ONE THING and you have shifted to a new path toward high self-worth.

The way you react when other people win

What happens to you the split second after you find out someone you know has won at life? Are you happy for them or are you mad at them? I don't mean 1 minute after you hear I mean the split second when you got the news. That reaction is visceral and it's a great indicator of your worth. If you don't think you deserve to win at life, then you will never believe others do either. Their winning only proves you are losing.

As you shift your self-worth you can use this as a great litmus test of your progress.